Signs of a FEMALE Narcissist | How to Deal with this Woman

I’m super excited about the FEMALE Narcissist topic because we haven’t covered it yet.

And I wanted to go over it because many people have questions about it when they have relationships, especially men.

We’ve been getting many messages from men asking us about narcissism. Men are saying like, you talk about narcissism, and it tends to be from the female’s point of view.

So men definitely go through emotional abuse. They go through narcissistic abuse.

I wanted to tackle the female narcissus for this article, and I didn’t want to tackle it in a romantic setting. 

I also want to tackle the narcissistic female mother, the narcissistic sister, the selfish friend, or co-worker. So just female narcissist generally.

But if this is your first article, and you’re just ending a relationship, or you’re trying to get some questions to answer, This is the article for you. 

Because it is a fantastic group of people and you realize you’re not alone. You’re not the only one who has gone through some of the things in your relationships and life.

So I’m going to stop rambling and let’s get right into the answer. So just like the male narcissist, the female is pretty similar.

Similarities of Male and Female Narcissistic

• Female narcissistic are going to lack empathy.
• They are going to be seeking narcissistic supply from people. 
• They are going to use manipulation and other tactics to get that.

The bottom line with all narcissist is, 

• They have a deficient sense of cell. 
• They have very fragile egos.
• They’re very jealous and insecure people. 

So they mask all of that with this glorious personality. Narcissists are covert and very much will play the victim.

So all of these abusive things that they put out to the world are just a cover. The fact that they’re slightly wounded, damaged, hurting, insecure, jealous, and envious.

Narcissists don’t know how to deal with all of that. They don’t even know what’s going inside of them. They are now playing a character, which is this narcissist. 

So all of these things that they do are just basically defense mechanisms. And if you’re not aware that people are that a narcissist is doing these things,

• You’re going to take it personally.
• You’re going to see it as a reflection of your self-worth or self-value when it has nothing to do with you.

Relationship of Female Narcissist

So learning about this stuff is crucial towards protecting yourself. But one of the biggest things with a female narcissist is with a relationship.

So it’s the same thing With the female as the male. Male narcissists are obsessed with money and status. They always think like, what they can achieve, and achievements are significant for them. That’s why a lot of really successful.

Narcissistic men are in very high positions, and it’s not about the money sometimes with them.

It’s about achievement like, What else can I achieve? How higher can I go? 

And it’s great to have goals and set goals. But there are some people, and I’m sure we’ve all met one at least where it’s never enough.

Narcissists are never happy with the success that they have. They never can take a step back and say, 

• wow, I did a good job. 
• Just enjoy their life and appreciate their life.

They want more money, more success, more status, and want to know more people. 

It’s a never-ending bottomless pit to try to fill a void within themselves and that they’re trying to fill. 

And with the female narcissus, She’s similar, but instead of gaining things and gaining money that she very well could, She really wants to spend the money and doesn’t want to spend her own money.

That’s for sure. So female narcissus will hook up with a very successful man with a ton of money and,

• She wants to spend money.
• Flaunt her new bags.
• Flaunt her diamond ring.
• Exhibit all of these trips that they’re going on. 
• And things like that make her feel better about herself. 

That boosts her self-esteem and makes her feel better about herself by spending money and flaunting it.

And that for her proves to herself really that she’s worthy, she’s enough because she has all of these other things, especially if she’s surrounding herself with people who do not have those things.

Female Narcissist is Attention Seeker

You have to understand that the female narcissus is a net attention seeker, and I’m sure we all know some celebrities that are like this as well, where they’re just so Narcissistic. 

And they need to be the center of attention. They have such a level of self-entitlement that it’s crazy.

I mean, you look at them, and you’re just like, oh my god.

Like you’re so wrapped up in yourself.

It’s great to have self-love and love ourselves and take those selfies and be proud of yourself and things like that, but we all know a celebrity, a friend, a co-worker where it just doesn’t feel right.

It feels not authentic, and it’s coming from that narcissistic place. And again, that Narcissistic supply place is low self-esteem.

• It’s someone that needs to feel validated.
• It’s someone that needs to show off and get people’s attention or give her what she needs. 

So it’s all attention-seeking. It’s all narcissistic supply. 

The really kind of crazy thing about all of this is that as a female narcissus spending money, she truly believes that everyone around her is envious of her.

She thinks that she has a life. She’s better than everyone else. She’s the better woman like she believes that in her mind.

It’s the same thing with a narcissistic man. 

• He believes, he’s a good guy at his core. 
• He’s a good dad. 
• He also believes that people are envious of me. 

And as long as I portray myself in this particular way, people will look up to me and know that I’m a great person even though they’re not at all at their core.

They’re just flaunting, or they’re just portraying this character again. This superficial character and all these external things also fill that void within a low sense of self.

Oh, actually, no sense of self, low self-esteem. No self-worth or self-respect. And absolutely, No empathy.

It’s like a child that’s begging for attention, and it’s really what the female narcissus is.

Differences between Male and Female Narcissist

The next thing that is different between the male narcissus and the female is, 

• The Female narcissist is the caddy.
• She isn’t secure.
• She is a bully a thousand percent.

Now we’ve all had moments when we gossip, and we’re probably not proud of it. 

And when we’re doing it, we know we feel gross and shouldn’t be doing it. Or we feel that pit in your stomach. 

And I know for me if I’ve ever been gossiping. There’s always a moment where I’m like, I don’t want to be doing this anymore.

Like I don’t feel good about it. I shouldn’t be judging someone else like and to be honest. It’s completely irrelevant.

But narcissus woman loves it. She loves to throw jabs, she loves to cut you at your knees, and she is a bully a hundred percent and

Again, it makes her feel better about herself. 

She loves to gossip. She loves to throw people under the bus. Because by hurting someone else, it makes her feel better about herself, is sick and twisted as that sounds.

She’s the one that it’s going to one-up you. So whenever you just got a nice new bag that you worked hard for, and this is something that you wanted, or you got a promotion at work, here she comes with well, my husband just got a promotion, too.

And now if you are going to Paris or wherever, It’s just always a competition with these people. She enjoys bringing people down.

She enjoys causing drama. That is the sign of a narcissist. 

Even if someone is not narcissistic, 

• the woman who causes drama.
• Sticks her nose in where it doesn’t belong.
• Who gossips all the time.
• Who always throwing jabs that cutting people their knees.
• And saying the most hurtful things that you could ever say.

That is a woman that screams insecurity. There’s this quote that fits perfectly, “Insecurities are loud, and confidence is silent.”

So it’s like when you meet that woman that is continuously trying to one-up you. Envy of you again and again. Then you know that you’re dealing with a narcissist.

And the reality is the reason why she does these things, the reason why she says the most hurtful things and be so passive-aggressive with her comments. 

 If she says something positive, there are like ten other negative things that come with it.

Female Narcissistic personality disorder

The reason she does this is that she is jealous of you. And the fact that she’s jealous of you means that she knows consciously, unconsciously, that She’s never going to be that woman.

Often, when you come across a woman, you know she is very jealous or insecure. Do these hurtful things and take them personally.

If you just actually understood that the reason why she’s doing it is that she’s jealous of you and the reason why she’s jealous is 

because you carry some traits, some qualities which she will never be able to do.

She doesn’t have the self-awareness to know what’s wrong with her. That’s causing her not to be that person. And that’s narcissism right there.

I mean, a narcissist has no self-awareness of where their wounds are. They have no self-awareness of being able to take responsibility for their actions. 

Seeing the damage and the sub, and the selfishness that they’re doing towards others. and being able to self reflect and say, okay

What do I need to do within myself to change this? 

They can’t do that. Narcissists are always going to blame someone else and put it on someone else.

It is someone else’s responsibility. It is not mine because I am now perfect for a narcissistic mother. And this is something on which I honestly got a lot of questions.

People that have had childhoods where they’ve had to deal with a narcissistic mother. With the narcissistic mother, they need to raise

Narcissistic children. So it doesn’t mean every single child is going to turn out to be narcissistic.

And if you’re a good parent, you know this. 

Female Narcissist Are Attention Seeker

All children need attention, but too much attention and too much praise, and too much putting on a pedestal, enabling, and helping out, and not letting your child at times learn those lessons, struggle a little bit. 

So children know how to pick themselves up. Narcissistic mother’s child never will be able to be that healthy adult, just like abuse of neglect and not feeding, not taking care of, and just leaving and abandoning.

I mean, that’s abuse too – they’re both abusive.

The narcissistic mother is definitely a topic that I will go more into in the other articles because it’s definitely a conversation all on its own.

But I wanted to give you a quick outline or overview of the narcissistic mother. They pick that one golden child and want to groom and breed narcissistic children.

So I hope that this article helped you understand the female narcissist a little bit better. If you have any comments or questions,

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